When Helping Hurts: Chapter 7

This is chapter is all about Short-Term Mission (STM) teams, mission teams sent from the U.S. and other developed countries to go and help in developing countries.  I have to say it is good I (Joel) read this chapter a second time.  After reading it the first time, I was about to throw the book in the trash.  Up to this point, I have very much appreciated the opinions and ideas presented in the book and, even if I haven’t agreed with every detail exactly, I have felt that the book was offering a very good critique of international community development.  After reading this chapter the first time, I felt like they had taken things a step too far in that it seemed to me that they were saying that there is pretty much nothing good that comes out of mission teams and that we should pretty much abort such ministries, though they never said it like that directly of course.  Now, having this idea as to what the book was presenting was very difficult for me.  And I have to be honest here and share a little bit of who Kim and I are to understand where we are coming from.  Kim and I are both products of Short-Term Missions.  We are both here as missionaries because we both had been involved in STM teams in the past.  In addition to this, I have led 5 different STM teams in the past.  Currently, though neither of us are directly ministering through STM teams, we help with them quite a bit.  We know how much the National Church and the individual churches benefit from and appreciate very much the ministry of the teams as well as the relationships they have formed with individual churches in the States.  So, this is all of our “baggage” that we bring to the table when reading this chapter.

But like I said in starting out, it’s good I read the chapter a second time.  The second time in reading the chapter I was able to move past my emotions of anger and frustration and read the chapter for what it was: a strong critique of Short-Term Missions.  This, in the end, is a good thing.  We always need to be analyzing and critiquing the things we do and the ministries we are part of to make sure that what we are doing is good.  I do still feel that I don’t agree with the great the lack of benefits that come out of Short-Term Missions as I have benefited greatly personally, I have known many people in churches in the States who have benefited greatly and I have met many folks here in Ecuador who have all benefited greatly as well as the relationships that I have formed with our partner churches in my previous trips that testify to how much they have benefited.

With all of that said, I would like to point out some of the strengths of the chapter in its critique of Short-Term Missions.

I agree with the idea that one of the main difficulties that comes into play in STM teams is the cultural differences.  One of the biggest differences between the two cultures is the concept of time.  Those of us from the States often feel that time is available resource that we are always losing and need take advantage of every second that we have.  Thus, sayings like “get the most out of every minute” and “time is money” are sayings that describe our cultural concept of time very well.  The cultures that teams from the U.S. visit often have a different concept of time.  They see it as a resource that there is always more of.  We can always find more time to do that but we won’t always have this time to form and deepen relationships.  Relationships and time together is the most important as opposed to the task that needs to be completed.  There is also a large difference between the two cultures as how they view themselves.  In the U.S. we are very individualistic and always put importance on the individual as opposed to other cultures which places so much emphasis on the well being of the community.

The other big thing that I would like to share is that we often have the idea that when we go out from the States we are going to save the world and help the poor and hurting people.  There is a certain level of superiority that comes with that.  I think it’s better that teams go with the idea that they are going to learn and partner in ministry.  I can tell you because I live here in Ecuador: God is here!  He is alive and at work in Ecuador.  You don’t have to bring Jesus here because he is already here.  I see His Kingdom growing and alive in the ministries of the National Church and local churches.  The book gave a great explanation of what kind of mentality and attitude we need to have with our STM teams.

There is a lot more that can be unpacked from this chapter that is very helpful in critiquing how we should go about doing STM teams but I will leave that up to each of you to discover in your own reading.

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Santo Domingo Wedding (Take 2)

Yesterday (Dec 17), we made another trip to Santo Domingo for our 2nd wedding since we’ve been here.  This wedding was for Ruben and Omparo’s 2nd daughter, Mayra.  This was quite an experience for us since we were asked to be the godparents for Mayra’s fiance, Javier.  We didn’t exactly know what this would entail, and kind of found out the responsibilities as they came up during the wedding.  Our names were announced as part of the ‘party’ that walked down the aisle before the bride.  We were asked to sit up front-with the parents of the bride and groom (although we sat on the wrong side). Joel was asked (with the other godfather) to help place a rope around the couple before they were pronounced husband and wife.  Joel (and luckily the other godfather) didn’t exactly know what to do, but it all worked out.  Toward the end of the service, we the godparents as well as the parents were asked to come up and pray for the couple.  This was a very special time and it meant a lot for us to be involved.   Joel was asked in advance to say a few words and found out before he was getting ready to give his words that it would be a toast!  HA!  No pressure!  All in all, it was quite an experience, but one we very much enjoyed and were honored to be a part of.  We were able to meet Javier’s family (includying 12 + brothers and sisters) as well as his father (we know his mother from working in the kitchen at the camp).  Please pray for us as we take on the responsibility of godparents (even though a little later in life).  We hope God can use us to be an encouraging and uplifting force in their life as they embark on this new adventure together.

Ruben, Omparo and Mayra walking down the aisle

Javier and his mother 'Lupe'

Ruben giving the welcome

After the rope was placed around the couple

Hugs after the ceremony

All of the family Delp with Javier, Mayra and Javier's father

 

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Water Fights and Life Lessons

A couple of days ago, Simeon and I were ‘washing’ dishes in the kitchen.  Simeon LOVES water and loves playing in it which helps me (Kim) with getting the dishes done.  Anyway, during our ‘washing’ Simeon started flinging water (not unusual).  I said in response to this “Simeon, this isn’t the place for that.”  (Calmly of course)…
As I heard the words come out of my mouth, I thought to myself, “This sounds like an adult talking and scolding”.  What better place to fling water than in our house, in our kitchen? So, instead of doing the good adult thing and continuing the wash dishes, I proceeded to fling water back at Simeon.  His face was priceless!  He just looked at me with big eyes and then started laughing and flinging more water.  After a few minutes, we were both soaked as well as the kitchen, but it was SO much fun and I wouldn’t trade the sweet sounds of laughter for anything-not even a dry kitchen.
My life lesson for today:
Don’t be too busy, or too ‘adult-like’ to take advantage of fun kid-like opportunities that your kids will remember.

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Christmas Newsletter available for Download

Christmas_2011_Newsletter

Our December 2011 Newsletter is available for download (Just click the link above!). You can see what all has been happening with us since our last official update in September as well as you can get an idea of what all we have been involved in this last year.  Also, please note the address for Covenant World Mission has changed. If you are sending checks, please send them to:

Covenant World Mission

Joel & Kim Delp STM Support

8303 W. Higgins Rd.

Chicago, IL 60631-2941

 

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Prayer Request

We just wanted to mention a quick prayer request as we know all of you are praying for us on a regular basis.  We just have had some discouraging times here recently and want to ask for prayer for encouragement from the Lord as we continue our work here.  For purposes of privacy, we don’t want to mention any details and so you know, nothing is of a large magnitude as we still very much love Ecuador, love our work here and love working with IPEE and want to do so in the future.  It’s more been several smaller events that have kind of combined to be fairly discouraging for us.  We just ask for prayer that during this Christmas season, we will find time to rest and be together as a family and be rejuvenated in the Lord for another year of service.

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Back from Santo Domingo

We arrived home in Quito yesterday from our work week at the camp in Santo Domingo.  As usual, we had a very nice time.  The Camp Committee meeting went very well as we were able to meet with an architect who helped us make several structural decisions as well as do some planning for the layout of the campgrounds and get things set as we move into the construction phase.  The painting work week also went very well as we had 5 people come from various parts of the country to help with the painting.  We were able to get 4 rooms painted and now we are only lack 3 dormitory rooms to be painted on the inside.  We were also able to work together and get field of corn and pumpkins planted.  For fun, one night we made homemade pizzas together that were delicious.  Here are some photos from the weeks so you can get a glimpse:

One of the volunteer painters who came from Quito.

Kim helping plant corn in one of the fields at the camp.

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Traveling — Off to Santo Domingo

We will be traveling to Santo Domingo starting today, Friday, December 2nd, until Saturday, December 10th.  We will be slow to respond to emails during this time.  God bless!

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Thanksgiving 2011 in Quito

We had an awesome time yesterday celebrating Thanksgiving 2011 with our friends in Quito.  Yes, we celebrated Thanksgiving a week late because we were traveling last week to Santa Rosa but that didn’t make it any less important and most of the people that were invited, Ecuadorians, didn’t know any difference anyways because they don’t have that holiday here in Ecuador.  This was our second year in a row of celebrating Thanksgiving here by inviting the IPEE office support staff to our apartment to share with them in a little bit of our culture from the U.S.  In the end, there was a lot of good food, so no one could possibly complain.

Kim worked tirelessly for two days preparing for the big meal, but it was well worth it as everything was delicious!

Simeon tried to help but he just ended up getting covered in flour.

A Thanksgiving meal is not complete without pumpkin pie.

Folks enjoying cider and conversation before the meal.

We shared a little explanation of what Thanksgiving is and had everyone go around the room and say what they are thankful for this year.

Everyone ready to dig in!

Kim with her Spanish teacher and babysitter; they were a huge help and a lot of fun!

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Hechos 29

While you all were celebrating with family, friends and turkeys last week, we went off to Santa Rosa, Ecuador to be at Hechos 29, which means Acts 29.  It is a bible school and cultural exchange as students from Sweden and Ecuador come together to study God’s word and look into ministry.  Joel had the privilege of being one of the teachers in the school’s last week of classes.  He taught on the topic of “Called and Sent” as the students were preparing themselves to be sent from their school back to the homes.  It was a powerful time as many of the students will be future leaders in the church.  We had the opportunity to get to know and counsel Karin (pictured below) who is actually from Chili and is discerning her call to Youth Prison ministry.  It was a wonderful time to see and be a part of a great ministry that they have here in Ecuador.

Joel teaching at Hechos. Fellow missionary, Mandy Hjelm, translated for him.

The Evangelical Church of Santa Rosa where Hechos was held.

Students had time scheduled for personal devotions every day.

A picture of the a bunch of the kids at Hechos.

A picture of Kim and Simeon with Karin, a student from Chili who is feeling called to Youth Prison ministry.

The gathering by a river for a baptismal service.

One of the student's from Hechos being baptized by her pastor.

The mission team that went to Hechos with Cheryll Clark on the left and Mandy Hjelm on the right.

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Happy Thanksgiving and Off to Santa Rosa

We just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Thanksgiving.  We hope you all have a fun, food-filled Thanksgiving with many laughs and good times with family and friends!!!

We are off to Santa Rosa (close to El Chaco on the Ecuador map) for Hechos 29.  Hechos 29 means “Acts 29” in English.  Basically, it is a young-adult interchange with students from Ecuador and Sweden.  Its purposes is for biblical/theological instruction for young adults interested in missions or ministry of some sorts.  Joel will be speaking on the topic “Called and Sent” which is very fitting for us.  We will be leaving this morning (November 21st) and returning Saturday, November 26th.  Your prayers for safe travels and clarity in thought and word are very much appreciated.

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